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How To Start A Virtual Book Club

During, and following, COVID many things that once were in person had to pivot to become virtual. And some of these things stayed that way, or opened up a new door with countless possibilities. One of these things was the transition of book clubs from gathering in person to online. This certainly presented challenges but also allowed people who maybe never have been to a book club to go from the comfort and safety of their own home, and meet some wonderful people from around the world.

I’m fortunate enough to be in a book club and actually run one with a wonderful group of men and women, primarily along the East Coast of the United States. It’s certainly not big, which is how I like it – kind of cozy and intimate like a real book club. But it afforded those older an ability to have a community during the trying times of COVID and also exposed me to some incredible pieces of literature and interesting perspectives.

During my time in the book club, co-moderating, and now running it, I’ve learnt a thing or two about how to successfully run a book club and wanted to pass on some tips and tricks if you wanted to start your own – either with strangers, you blog followers, or friends and family!

At a high level, this is what you need!

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Now to get into the down and dirty with a bit more information and examples of how I run it! 

1. Choose your platform to host it on wisely.

There’s a lot of great places out there that you can host on – I know there’s some in Discord for example. But for me personally, Facebook groups was the way to go. We needed it simple for those less technologically inclined and something which was accessible to many without needing to make a new account. If your group is older, or mixed, some of these fancy new apps and such may not work.

2. Decide if you will make administrative decisions or want the group to vote!

Some groups like to vote on everything. Others like to have the leaders make the choices. I personally enjoy doing a mix because it lets people be involved, but makes sure things get done. An example is, I will have people suggest monthly themes and I collect them all and then I choose what month they will occur on and try and get in as many as I can that were suggested! I’ve tried the collection of themes and having people vote on when they wanted it and let me tell you, it got messy. Sometimes as a moderator you need to just make decisions on your own.

3. Decide how many books you want to read and organize, organize, organize!

Some book groups read one book a quarter, some only a couple a year and others one a month. We are the latter so we get through a lot of book which is fantastic. But it means there is a lot of planning. How many books you want to read will determine how many themes you will need for the year. And this will also dictate when you need to be collecting and posting what people will be reading. You need to make sure to leave enough time to get the book – whether that be buying it or getting it from a library. Make sure you know what is happening when before you start.

If it’s friends it’s a little less informal and you can go with the flow, but if it’s strangers you want to put a good foot forward to have people engage and want to read the books.

4. Make Themes!

Themes are a great way to make sure that you have an array of books (you can see an example of what I do to the left). This is particularly important if you plan to try and read a lot of books. You can make your book club have a theme if that is your desire – so you are a classical book club, or a sci-fi book club. But, if you just want to read anything out there, start with making themes. Before January (or whenever your “new year” will start) it can be smart to know what your monthly themes will be.

How I’ve run mine is that end of November or early December I do a post in the Facebook group and ask my members for theme suggestions. Suggestions can be super specific or very general – but you want the themes to have enough clarity so people know what kind of book to suggest.

Once you collect all the theme suggestions, I’d recommend making executive decisions on what month will be when, and try and be logical! Maybe keep spooky themes to October, travel reads to the summer (or maybe the winter to escape the cold!)

5. Decide on your schedule.

You need to decide what is going to be happening when so people know what to expect. For example in my book club, during the month of January, the first of the month I post what our February theme is. People know what the theme is already because there’s a pinned post so they know what is up and coming and that is decided every year for the following year.

But, I’ll do a Facebook group post stating the theme for next month and asking for suggestions of books. I’ll usually leave that open for a week and choose the date I will accept suggestions until. Then on that date I collect everyone suggestions and do a poll! This allows members to vote on what they want to read – this will be open about a week too. Whatever has the most votes at the end wins! If two tie, then I’ll usually make an executive choice. By about the third week of a month, for this example in January, we’ll have our book for the month of February and we’ll post the winner!

The month of February is for reading and also choosing when we discuss the February book I recommend setting that in stone for your group if you can – i.e.: the first Sunday/the first Friday or a month we will meet to discuss. My group likes to be a bit more flexible so we vote on which of the first two weekends in the following month (so for this example, the following month is March) works best.

So for one book for one month, there’s about a 3 month timeline. It’s a lot of work and a lot of organizing but once it’s set and flowing, it’s worth it! That being said, you can simplify it absolutely! This is just how mine works, and sure it is complicated sometimes, but we have it down to a fine art after many years!

 

After that, you just have to have fun and be flexible! Book clubs should be a social time so it is entirely up to you how you want it to go. Having some structure can help it go smoothly, but if you want to just go with the flow then that is okay too! Just be open to some feedback to best suit it for your group! That being said, if you have a huge virtual book club then organization will be key!

Book clubs are a great way to be exposed to more books. I’ve definitely read books I’ve disliked or never would have read but ultimately I’ve enjoyed the process and community! Also with virtual it means you can possibly meet people from around the world. Starting small is great and growing your community from there is key!

 

Do you have any tips or tricks on how to run a virtual book club that I haven’t mentioned here? Feel free to share in the comments!

 


Malevolent King by Mila Kane [Dark Romance Book Review] 1

A Dark Mafia Romance – Made of Mayhem Duet Book 1

MATURE READERS ONLY! Read TW on authors website.

Summary

“When this sheltered mafia princess meets a bratva devil on the run, neither of them will ever be the same.

When my cousin bets me in a poker game, I catch the eye of a predator who will never look away.

Nikolai Chernov is infamous in our world. Unhinged, brutal, merciless. A hot-blooded killer with a deadly laugh and a sinful body to match.

He won’t leave me alone. He says I belong to him. His prize. As time passes, I can’t tell if I want him to win or lose.

He’s a dearly devoted psychopath,,, and he has his sights set on me. Nothing can stop him. Not even being imprisoned by my father.

I’m about to learn the hard way… When the villain doesn’t get the girl.

He takes her.

Malevolent King is Book 1 in a duet, and therefore ends in a cliffhanger. The story resolves in Runaway Queen. This is a dark mafia meets bratva romance, and as such contains dark themes which may not be to everyone’s tastes. Please read with caution.”

-From Amazon.com

Summary

So it’s been a HOT MINUTE since I’ve ready a good kind of smutty book. I’m not usually a huge, huge fan when there is quite literally no story and this one absolutely was not that! There was totally a story, good character development and progression and all the good stuff! I’ll also say it’s been a while since I’ve read a dark romance book as well and Bookstgram has been recommending me a ton of books in my list, most notably the Haunting Adeline (which I may or may not read, not decided just yet). So, decided to give Kindle a month free trial to see what they have there and BOOM, immediately, recommendations. And this was one of them.

DARK but still enjoyable

So this is classified as dark romance and it absolutely is. There were some heavy themes that may not float your boat, some of which definitely wouldn’t float my boat for real life stuff but for a book I was like, hmm okay I can go with this. You’ll see what I mean in the TW on her site but definitely having a psychotic kind of character as the male makes it a pretty heavy book. And of course it’s a mafia story so there’s some other kind of weird and creepy under themes to it but honestly it does kind of add to the story. I don’t want to say mafia romance books are ever realistic, because we know that mafia and romance do not go together (let it stay in your head ladies and gentlemen) but dark mafia romance usually has the level of twistedness that makes it a bit closer to ‘reality’ for lack of a better phrase. But don’t get it into your head to find the nearest mafia hangout spot to try and catch their eye!

Steamy and kept the pages going – but vulgar.

Now I am absolutely not a prude. I love a good steamy scene as much as the next person, but there are certain words that I am not a huge fan of, some of the more…seriously extreme and crass words (it’s used in Australia as a friendly greeting to give a hint). I’m sure you can guess which ones I’m getting at. And well, the main character Nikolai loved to used some of those words and it was kind of a slap to the face. I absolutely know that it comes with the territory but you can get the dark point across without a use of a certain word, or used as much. Especially normalizing it’s use in books or making it seem sexy. Now, I now everyone has their own personal preference and this is just one of mine. But just be aware, not only is it dark but it is going to definitely expose you to new words which may or may not be your thing.

But if you want a steamy book, then this definitely may catch your interest! It kept me with the pages turning and I wanted to know more! Not only from the steamy side but also the story side.

Psychotic Development – Caged Bird Freed

The main character Nikolai definitely did progress a little bit over the book, going from the crazier person to someone with a little more heart. As well did Sofia going from a bit more of a timid-ish young woman to trying to kick some butt a little bit in her own way. It’s was certainly interesting to see that develop over the book and see how their stories entwined, especially with the running theme of the mafia and mafia families in the background. To also see some of the background of the families and how they all got to where they were, well that was certainly an added bonus to get some of that additional view.


Overall, I definitely enjoyed the read and can see myself reading this book again just to pick up on a few other bits and pieces going on – you know, wink wink nudge nudge. But in all seriousness, it was an enjoyable read and certainly one I’d recommend if you like more mature romance and dark romance in general. It does end in a cliffhanger and book two was definitely enjoyable too (review coming soon-ish).  It’s free on Kindle but you can also grab yourself a paperback!

Happy Reading!

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Big Book Stores: The Secret to Keeping Indie Stores Alive?

Recently a fantastic essay came out on BookRiot on “How Should We Feel About Barnes & Nobel Now?” and it has been doing it’s round. If you haven’t given it a read, I highly recommend that you do.

The TL;DR is essentially that Barnes & Nobel is coming back and while it seems that they are trying to make their stores more “indie” focused – allowing stores to be a bit more unique and have smaller book selections – they really are just a big store with a bottom line. They aren’t there to truly care about the customer in the same way tat an indie store would. The author of the essay went so far to compare B&N to some of the Amazon Bookstores.

But, I would argue that there is some benefit to having B&N back on the scene and rebranding in a way. It gives some strong competition to Amazon in my opinion. Amazon has dominated the market is literally every single category. You need food? Amazon. Beauty items? Amazon. Phones? Amazon. Adult items? Amazon.

From larasbookclub.wordpress.com

Don’t get me wrong, I am guilty of using Amazon and as a blogger they do have a ‘decent’ and easy program to be an associate and earn a small commission, but at the end of the day they push everyone else to the side! Keep places that challenge a store like Amazon – whether that be Target, Walmart or B&N – means that there is some kind of diversity and it stops prices being too too crazy.

So where does Barnes & Nobel fit in?

Well, they challenge Amazon Books, you know those brick and mortar stores that they set up? I checked one out a long time ago and I personally hated it.

B&N allows people go in and browse, and also bring back a lot of our childhoods who grew up going to their events or looking for a book! It’s kind of that gateway that can help to maintain prices, have more money to keep more books in store and maybe introduce you to other books that you didn’t know of.

So how could this help indie stores?

Well this is where the buyer/reader comes in. Places like B&N, as I said, are good to browse and see what is out there. I hate shopping for books online so I may go into B&N and peruse the shelves, see what their people recommend, take some pictures of books I’m curious in, and then leave. I don’t purchase from them usually unless I go in for a purpose for something. From there I may go to an indie book store and find the book (sometimes reaching out before hand to have them get it in) and give them my business.

I used what B&N provided for me in their physical location but give my money elsewhere for certain purchases.

In my opinion, indie stores also usually hire people who are truly passionate about books and want to talk about books. B&N, as a large company, is just going to hire staff, or be more likely to. Not everyone who works there is a book lover and may just need a job. If you’ve ever been in an indie store you know what I mean! The staff love to chat, answer questions and always give great suggestions!

From my Instagram

So while B&N is still a big company and wants to take your money, when you are looking at prices, the price difference is honestly (in many cases) decently negligible. And yes, I know Amazon looks so attractive with their cheap prices, but they want you to only buy from them. They play the long game – buy from them, push other places out of business and then hike up the prices and you’ll have nowhere else to go.

There is no one clear answer – sometimes you can’t afford to really support an indie place and really have to turn to Amazon, I totally get that. Buttt, barring those pesky school books that you have to buy, I have a great solution there! Your library! I’m a big supporter of libraries for those who don’t maybe have tons of money to spent – I mean big duh with the name and all. But maybe instead of buying your whole TBR, borrow some and buy what you love and put that money towards indie stores. Just one option of many and there is no one size fit all.

But I know that I will continue to love my Barnes & Nobel to just go, grab a coffee and wander around a big store and look at books. I mean what is better than that?!


The Mad Women’s Ball by Victoria Mas

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Summary

“The Salpêtrière Asylum: Paris, 1885. Dr. Charcot holds all of Paris in thrall with his displays of hypnotism on women who have been deemed mad and cast out from society. But the truth is much more complicated—these women are often simply inconvenient, unwanted wives, those who have lost something precious, wayward daughters, or girls born from adulterous relationships. For Parisian society, the highlight of the year is the Lenten ball—the Mad Women’s Ball—when the great and good come to gawk at the patients of the Salpêtrière dressed up in their finery for one night only. For the women themselves, it is a rare moment of hope.

Genevieve is a senior nurse. After the childhood death of her sister Blandine, she shunned religion and placed her faith in both the celebrated psychiatrist Dr. Charcot and science. But everything begins to change when she meets Eugénie, the 19-year-old daughter of a bourgeois family that has locked her away in the asylum. Because Eugénie has a secret: she sees spirits. Inspired by the scandalous, banned work that all of Paris is talking about, The Book of Spirits, Eugénie is determined to escape from the asylum—and the bonds of her gender—and seek out those who will believe in her. And for that she will need Genevieve’s help . . .”

-From Amazon.com

Review

This was yet another book from my book club that I probably never would have picked up on my own. This was for our theme of “A Book Translated into English” and this was our choice – a book from French to English. And wow am I so glad that I gave it a read. I truly enjoyed this book and it was a quick read too with it being completed in about 2-3 hours, so you know it’s good when that happens. I just curled up and devoured it.

Infuriatingly Interesting – Really Men?!

This book really displayed the power that men had during the 1800s and the fear that they had of powerful women. Men, and particularly fathers and husbands of women could just lock a woman up in a asylum for anything – hysterics, murder, seeing things, just because they didn’t fit the mold. It was so infuriating to see the treatment of Eugénie and the fact that because she saw spirits her father turned against her and quite literally threw her away. It was just so painful to read that she went from being this relatively beloved daughter to being completely disowned. And seeing the treatment of Genevieve and the general disregard of her after a particular turn of events….ooo man my blood was boiling.

And then you just have the treatment of the women while in the asylum – paraded around like animals in a zoo. They were presented and studied, and photographs taken of them and posted in the newspapers. It was just such a look into life that people forget about. While the book is fiction it is historically accurate with those details.

A Look into Asylums

While there was the whole terrible side of the treatment of women by men like they were property, you did get to see a kind of safety that the asylum did provide – whether that be through a false sense of safety/Stockholm kind of syndrome or true safety. You read about women who maybe were a little bit clinically insane loving the world that was the asylum because of the safety that it provided and the little world that they had been able to create for themselves.

Seeing the more open minded Eugénie come in with a very progressive mindset into there and almost turning the place on its head in a way was just very interesting to see. The shake up she caused internally, even though not terribly massive, really did cause some big waves.

A Stark Reminder in Modern Times

No to get political, but these kind of books during modern times are always a reminder of what was and what could possibly be again! A time when men had all the power over society and over women – a time that is scarily becoming more and more a reality in many places both in the United States as well as around the world. I honestly found it a little stressful to read all of this because of that. I felt like it was hitting a little to close to home and I felt a deep seeded annoyance. The portrayal of this world really makes you think and also be grateful for all the strides that the Women’s Rights movement made for women all over.

 

But overall, this was a 5/5 teacup book for me! It was well written (any writing style issues I chalked up to translation issues which always happen), a really interesting and captivating story and emotionally thought provoking. I wished by the end of it that there was more – like maybe it was a bigger book with more for me to read! That’s how you know a book is good – when you feel satisfied with the story but just wish there was more because you don’t want it to be over.

If you’ve read this book, what did you think?

Also there is a French movie adaptation of this book which I will absolutely be checking out soon!

 

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Robert Burns Night 2023

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With January 25th comes Burns Night, the day when people celebrate the life and poetry of the famous Scottish poet Robert Burns.

As someone with Scottish heritage (my grandmother’s family line) I celebrate this day with my family. Normally we will have some traditional Scottish foods such as Haggis (which while some think is yucky is quite delicious), black pudding and of course some Scotch. 😉 Can never go wrong with that.

But it is also an evening for us to enjoy some of Burns’ most interesting poems. We of course have our favorites, and everyone who knows of Burns knows the classics and has their favorites as well. However, here are a few of mine that I think really show his abilities and are good places to start for those unfamiliar!

To A Mouse – Such a wonderful classic that begins with the turning up of a mouse’s nest with a plough. One of my personal favorites!

A Red, Red Rose – A beautiful love poem with a speaker professing his undying love for a beautiful lass.

Address to a Haggis – A humorous tribute to a Scottish classic!

Tam O’ Shanter – A bit more of a gruesome poem about a story of a farmer who comes across witches!

About Robert Burns

Born in 1759, Robert Burns (familiar: Rabbie Burns) was a Scottish poet and lyricist. He is widely accepted and regarded as the national poet of Scotland. Even with this title, much of his writing is accessible and understandable by an audience beyond Scotland.

He was a pioneer of the Romantic movement (as clearly visible in some of his poems).

While people outside of Scotland may not recognize a lot of his work, one you will absolutely recognize is sung every year on New Year – Auld Lang Syne!

 

There are some incredible works by him if you want to get your hands on some hard copies too!

Even for those of you not Scottish or have any Scottish heritage, do you celebrate?

 

 

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